We often will sabatoge our own success.  Learn to set achievable goals in life.  Have a plan and work your plan.  Sometimes we don't know what we really want in life because our parent willoften create a script for us based on their own needs not letting us make our decisions for ourselves, because they want us to fulfill their dreams for themselves.  We all unique in some way.  Learn who you are, then take control of your own life and learn to live your own dreams.

You have to learn to take control of your own life and live it the way you want to.